Comments on: Deflated and Defeated http://bychance.wordpress.com/2008/04/28/deflated-and-defeated/ Writing with a purpose, maybe. Fri, 13 Nov 2009 02:30:44 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Mcmary http://bychance.wordpress.com/2008/04/28/deflated-and-defeated/#comment-4184 Mcmary Thu, 05 Jun 2008 01:29:54 +0000 http://bychance.wordpress.com/?p=151#comment-4184 I am so sorry about your unexpected delays ever since you received your region. I have understand your frustrations--I have been waiting many months and have no idea of when to expect to travel and my agency doesn't either. It does seem that things have slowed down all over the country. I totally agree with you that there must be some way for agencies to be more upfront with us and be able to predict with a little more accuracy. When I started this process I thought I would be done by now--based on what the agency said about wait times but it seems like they have almost doubled in the time I have been waiting. What a hard process this is--I will pray for it to all work out for you and I ask for your prayer also. I am so sorry about your unexpected delays ever since you received your region. I have understand your frustrations–I have been waiting many months and have no idea of when to expect to travel and my agency doesn’t either. It does seem that things have slowed down all over the country. I totally agree with you that there must be some way for agencies to be more upfront with us and be able to predict with a little more accuracy. When I started this process I thought I would be done by now–based on what the agency said about wait times but it seems like they have almost doubled in the time I have been waiting. What a hard process this is–I will pray for it to all work out for you and I ask for your prayer also.

]]> By: Regina http://bychance.wordpress.com/2008/04/28/deflated-and-defeated/#comment-4173 Regina Thu, 01 May 2008 23:51:31 +0000 http://bychance.wordpress.com/?p=151#comment-4173 So many of us can relate to your frustration. There are delays left and right. I also feel like I just want to know the truth. If it's going to be 6 more months then tell me now. I can handle it if I know, but don't string me along! I can't help but wonder if there aren't changes going on over there that we just don't know about. Maybe an increase in the amount of time they have to be on the registry? I don't know -- it's just a theory, but maybe it really is just that the demand has increased so much. We are expecting our LOI next week and so then expecting to travel within 3-4 days after we receive it. I've grown really excited and I believe it's going to happen, but there is a tiny part of me that is holding back because it just seems like something will happen to steal it away from us. I really hope not. Take care, and try to enjoy the lovely spring weather. So many of us can relate to your frustration. There are delays left and right. I also feel like I just want to know the truth. If it’s going to be 6 more months then tell me now. I can handle it if I know, but don’t string me along!

I can’t help but wonder if there aren’t changes going on over there that we just don’t know about. Maybe an increase in the amount of time they have to be on the registry? I don’t know — it’s just a theory, but maybe it really is just that the demand has increased so much.

We are expecting our LOI next week and so then expecting to travel within 3-4 days after we receive it. I’ve grown really excited and I believe it’s going to happen, but there is a tiny part of me that is holding back because it just seems like something will happen to steal it away from us. I really hope not.

Take care, and try to enjoy the lovely spring weather.

]]> By: Sandi http://bychance.wordpress.com/2008/04/28/deflated-and-defeated/#comment-4171 Sandi Tue, 29 Apr 2008 01:40:33 +0000 http://bychance.wordpress.com/?p=151#comment-4171 Kelly and Doug, Having travelled to Kostanai and having returned childless, the officials of Kostanai are not kidding when they say kids are just not available. I can definitely understand your heartache as mine started when I was assigned to the region Sept. '07, I was told I would travel in Oct. then Nov. then January, received an LOI for January only to have it pulled 2 weeks prior to travel and reassigned for March 10. I travelled to Kaz and was faced with a child I was not able to adopt and NO OTHER children were available, so I came home. So when I say as much as it stinks it is so much better that you are delayed here, with your family and friends support and the ability to be able to go back to work and stay busy. If you need to talk please feel free to email me. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you during these trying times. sandi Kelly and Doug,
Having travelled to Kostanai and having returned childless, the officials of Kostanai are not kidding when they say kids are just not available. I can definitely understand your heartache as mine started when I was assigned to the region Sept. ‘07, I was told I would travel in Oct. then Nov. then January, received an LOI for January only to have it pulled 2 weeks prior to travel and reassigned for March 10. I travelled to Kaz and was faced with a child I was not able to adopt and NO OTHER children were available, so I came home.

So when I say as much as it stinks it is so much better that you are delayed here, with your family and friends support and the ability to be able to go back to work and stay busy. If you need to talk please feel free to email me.

My thoughts and prayers are with all of you during these trying times.

sandi

]]> By: Chris and Tricia http://bychance.wordpress.com/2008/04/28/deflated-and-defeated/#comment-4170 Chris and Tricia Mon, 28 Apr 2008 22:22:07 +0000 http://bychance.wordpress.com/?p=151#comment-4170 Kelly and Doug, I am glad to hear that you are following your path and are not letting others sway you. It WILL happen even though it doesn't feel like it at times. We have to have faith! Thinking of you. Tricia Kelly and Doug,

I am glad to hear that you are following your path and are not letting others sway you. It WILL happen even though it doesn’t feel like it at times. We have to have faith! Thinking of you. Tricia

]]> By: Susan http://bychance.wordpress.com/2008/04/28/deflated-and-defeated/#comment-4169 Susan Mon, 28 Apr 2008 18:36:12 +0000 http://bychance.wordpress.com/?p=151#comment-4169 I am so sorry. It is so hard, to be excited and expecting to travel, then, told, new dates taht are further and further away. The whole thing is so shrouded in secrecy too. I'm with you--just be up front, tell us what's going on, and what to expect so we can plan our lives a lil better. I honestly dont 'think their system is as organized as one would think. In just reading blogs and stuff on my own, I have counted seven families (and those are the only ones I know about, there could be more) ALL waiting for Kostanai. I don't know when we'll go. I'm glad you get to go back to work, that will help. I was so hoping we'd go this summer, since we have a rising 5th grader and to go over summer break would be a godsend. If we're not going until August or later, then he starts school and that changes our whole game plan. I keep hoping Astana will open back up. The rumor is May-but that is also shrouded in secrecy. I would think there are more children available there since they've been "closed" to adoptions since Feb. Anyway-as one of the other waiting families, my heart goes out to you. We can't throw the cards in-we have to wait and be positive and strong. Our future children need us. I am ready for the day we can all put this behind us. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family-and I'm at least glad we have each other. It seems to help me a lot because we truly do know how it feels. Warmest thoughts and hugs your way. I hope your weather warms up too. IT's getting hot and humid here in Florida. Warm regards, Susan (also waiting for Kostanai) I am so sorry. It is so hard, to be excited and expecting to travel, then, told, new dates taht are further and further away. The whole thing is so shrouded in secrecy too. I’m with you–just be up front, tell us what’s going on, and what to expect so we can plan our lives a lil better. I honestly dont ‘think their system is as organized as one would think. In just reading blogs and stuff on my own, I have counted seven families (and those are the only ones I know about, there could be more) ALL waiting for Kostanai. I don’t know when we’ll go.
I’m glad you get to go back to work, that will help. I was so hoping we’d go this summer, since we have a rising 5th grader and to go over summer break would be a godsend. If we’re not going until August or later, then he starts school and that changes our whole game plan.

I keep hoping Astana will open back up. The rumor is May-but that is also shrouded in secrecy. I would think there are more children available there since they’ve been “closed” to adoptions since Feb.

Anyway-as one of the other waiting families, my heart goes out to you. We can’t throw the cards in-we have to wait and be positive and strong. Our future children need us. I am ready for the day we can all put this behind us.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family-and I’m at least glad we have each other. It seems to help me a lot because we truly do know how it feels.

Warmest thoughts and hugs your way. I hope your weather warms up too. IT’s getting hot and humid here in Florida.

Warm regards,
Susan (also waiting for Kostanai)

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