Another Milestone Reached…Perhaps, Two

September 23, 2008 at 4:22 am 10 comments

Tuesday, September 23rd, 2008: Day 21 in Kostanai

Milestone 1
A minor milestone in our Kazakhstan adoption process has occurred. Yesterday was our 14th “official” day visiting our little one at the Delphin Baby House. What does this mean? It means that we can apply for a court date today. Hooray! We’re actually making progress.

Parents-to-be must visit and bond with their child for fourteen days before they can apply for their first court date. The first visit is usually considered to be the day you meet your child. Although our meeting occurred on Friday, September 5th, the retirement of the previous baby home director delayed our start. Our first “official” day recorded wasn’t until Tuesday, September 9th, when we were finally able to review medical records and meet with the assistant director.

Milestone 2
A note to adopting parents: make sure you know what you want to name your child before the eve of your court application. Doug and I received a phone call at 9:30 p.m. last night from our coordinator wanting to know “the name of the child”. Although we had discussed a number of options we weren’t aware of a deadline (something we both work best with) and hadn’t made a final decision. As a result, we were up until almost midnight trying to decide this important aspect of becoming a parent.

To try and name a child that already has a moniker to which they’ve been referred for the first part of their life is a challenge. Named by his mother, called to fondly by caregivers, and, now, practiced and used repeatedly by his parents to be, his name seems to be something that is already his and shouldn’t be changed.

We had a few ideas and tried to imagine using them when seeing our little guy next. As with other adopting parents that have gone through this same experience, nothing new seemed to work. In the end, we decided we’re happy to include this part of his heritage, his Kazakh name, in his new life, while adding a middle name with meaning to us. We chose Jasper after Jasper National Park in the Canadian Rockies; our first tenting excursion together. It was also a place where we started a long journey, arriving in the darkness of night with no idea of what to expect, awakening to see a place of incredible beauty.

By the way, I know keeping things a bit secretive is frustrating for some readers and future Kostanai parents, but you’ll understand our course of action once you are here. Trust me on this one! As things become more final, we promise to share more information. Thanks for being patient until then.


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  • 1. Susan  |  September 23, 2008 at 4:58 am

    congrats to you on your end of “official bonding” and the name of your son. 🙂
    that’s awesome. 🙂 I love his middle name…what a perfect analogy!!

    as you know, “official” bonding may be over, but the bond you continue to form with your son just cotinues to get strong and stronger and stronger and stronger. 🙂

    the long stay here is totally worth it…I had no idea it would be as wonderful as it is.

  • 2. kazreader  |  September 23, 2008 at 11:08 am

    That is great news. I am happy to read about all the milestones you have achieved. Hopefully you won’t have to wait forever for court.

    I can totally understand your need to keep things “secretive”, it will be here before you know it and we will all be able to marvel in your sons cuteness.


  • 3. Nell  |  September 23, 2008 at 6:13 pm

    We are so thrilled for you guys! Reading your chosen middle name for your beauty gave me chills. Seriously. I’m crying tears of joy that you have reached these incredible milestones.

  • 4. Carol Nylen  |  September 23, 2008 at 8:21 pm

    Hey, congratulations on all of it! I love the middle name and its origin.

    Where are the pictures hiding? I went to the other link and couldn’t find them. You’ll have to send me an email.

    Sounds like you’re enjoying yourself!

    We’re off tomorrow to the streets of Portland while we conduct a Voter Registration Drive as part of our expedition. The weather is glorious right now–we’re loving that!

    Enjoying your blogs,

  • 5. Ali  |  September 24, 2008 at 1:15 am

    I was secretly hoping you would keep that name – I love it!! Maybe __ for short? I am so thrilled about everything!!

  • 6. KJ, Steve and Tougy  |  September 24, 2008 at 2:53 am

    Congratulations on reaching this next milestone!
    We LOVE his name. I have loved his birth name since you shared it with us and completely understand your decision not to change it. It was the same for Aitugan for us. That was, and IS, who she it. At first we had NO idea what we would come up with a nickname, but the right one revealed itself in time and has led to about six different nicknames. : ) I’m sure you’ll find the same, if you haven’t already, with ——-. (I think I spelled it right.) I also love the symbolism and meaning of his middle name also. I’m sure he’ll love it.

    We are thinking of you all, especially as we made the trip to the Portland USCIS office for our second adoption fingerprints as well as the drop off of the last of our documents to Libby. It was interesting, as I was waiting for Steve and Tougy at USCIS, I saw a couple walk out of the building and my first thought was, “I wonder if they are PAP’s”? It turns out they are! I found out because they were talking with Libby at MAPS as I dropped off our documents! – What a small world, huh?

    Hugs to you all, have a GREAT day!

  • 7. Tricia  |  September 24, 2008 at 4:38 am

    That is great that you have one milestone down. It gives you a feeling that you are getting somewhere in the process. I totally agree with how you felt about his name. We kept Rustam’s name for the very same reasons. Although it is a bit challenging for people to pronounce correctly, it is worth the effort to explain it to them. I love the story behind his middle name. What an analogy for the Kaz experience. Hope your court date comes up fast. Thinking of you! Tricia

  • 8. Ellen Norton  |  September 25, 2008 at 12:00 am

    You picked a name !! Wow….This is this little boy’s identity for the rest of his life…how awesome.
    Things sound like they are going soooo well and we are very happy for you.
    It’s about time!!!

  • 9. Libby  |  September 27, 2008 at 1:46 pm

    I love the addition of “Jasper” to his name. It is a link between you , Doug , and the hope and dreams that you developed over your relationship to building a family. Thinking of you oftern and hope twe connect soon. Love reading your blog! Can’t wait until you are back to the US with your little one and seeing the 3 of you together!

  • 10. Ali  |  September 27, 2008 at 9:36 pm

    You haven’t written in a while!! I am checking every day! Also, I am not sure where the other place is that you’re posting the pix – I didn’t get the second batch via email.


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