One Year Anniversaries

September 20, 2009 at 10:19 am 5 comments

This post was written on September 7th and I’ve just now had time to revise and post.

IMG_3727Like any parent, time with our son has flown. This week has been an emotional one for me as K has not only started daycare (three days a week at an establishment with the other two at his grandparents), but this week also marks our one year anniversary of when we arrived in Kazakhstan and met our son.

I can only imagine that parents who have given birth go through the same sentiments remembering the joy when a new child entered their lives. For them, it is the child’s birthday. For the adoptive parent, there are many milestones in the steps to become a parent and it is sometimes hard to decide which day is the one that stands out in significance. Either way, at some point, the pain of childbirth and frustrations of pregnancy are long forgotten just as our struggles to adopt and the years it took (three for us) to finally become parents seem to blend in with teething issues, potty training, and the thrill of seeing the world for the first time through the eyes of your child.

This blog has been an incredible tool in which to record our journey to parenthood. As I look back over  entries written in Kazakhstan I’m reminded of how much I actually “sugar coated” the reporting of some of the difficulties that we encountered. Not being sure of who was reading my blog at the time, I didn’t want to record anything that may have interfered with our process while in Kostanai. There are still things I need to write about before they become another faded memory.

But, as with most adoptions,  and as I have said in many, many, posts and probably will again, somehow fate is working in your best interest and you are blessed with a child that is meant for you. We truly feel that way with Kairat.

Kairat turned 19 months on September 5th. It doesn’t seem like he can already be that old yet every day I’m amazedIMG_3741 at his new feats of achievement. For instance, he began clapping his hands in excitement the other day as we were driving home at dusk. When I asked him what was so thrilling he pointed his little arm repeatedly and shouted, “Moon! Moon! Moon!” Because he goes to bed around 7 p.m., the moon isn’t something he has had a chance to observe other than in his books. Without ever being shown in the “real world” setting he realized what it was that he was seeing and, obviously, loved it!

K is walking, running, and climbing on everything. Fixing dinner or doing dishes is now done with my little assistant who insists on pulling his toddler sized chair to my side and standing on it to get a better look. Yesterday he mixed eggs for scrambled eggs while perched in his typical viewing area. He loves being given jobs and does great with follow through.

Counting to three and recognizing the letters “O” and “E” are recent achievements and his vocabulary blows me away. It is as if we are living with an almost three foot parrot who repeats the final word of every sentence. K is also constantly coming out with words that I had no idea that he knew. A few days ago he was playing in a bucket of water outside with some of his toys when he came up to me with one item and said, “Dry.” He wanted to dry it off. Amazing. I’ve also become, “Mummy,” instead of, “Mama,” which I think is so cute. Speaking in two word sentences, “More, please,” versus a one word demand and filling in the words in some of his favorite books are also recent developments.”No!”, however, remains his favorite phrase at this point in his life.

IMG_3721Trucks, cars, and motorcycles seem to be some ingrained male interest. However, we spend a lot of time identifying the natural world and studying trees, the sky, flowers, bugs, and many other outdoor phenomenon. Kairat loves being outside and we are there as much as possible. Coloring, trains, building with blocks, and helping “Mummy” sweep or clean also tend to be high interest areas at this time right now. Of course, books and balls are still obsessions. Kairat loves to read (Baa, Baa, Black Sheep is a current favorite nursery rhyme/song) and he is actually getting pretty good at catching a tennis ball, adding to his skill in kicking and throwing.

Slow to teeth (at one point we didn’t think he was EVER going have teeth), K’s bottom chompers are finally coming in with a total of six fully formed (that’s on top and bottom) with another six poking through his sore gums.

Our son remains incredibly social in large gatherings, yet a little fearful of strangers in more familiar settings such as home or at a relative or neighbor’s. Last Wednesday I took him to the annual 6th grade cookout at my school where I teach. It is an event to welcome the incoming 6th graders and their parents to King Middle School and takes place in the front driveway/yard of the school. We parked in the back and walked through the building to the where the celebration was taking place. As we exited through the front doors and saw the throngs of parents and children, Kairat began clapping and bouncing in my arms with excitement. He instantly wanted to get down to run and play in the crowd. Through my gregarious son, I met more students and parents than I typically do at these events. He attracts attention and loves it!

Life is fun and Kairat is wonderful but we are also beginning to see what can be described as the “Terrible Two’s”. Stubbornness, throwing, swatting at people, occasional tantrums (mostly when he has to come inside), and testing limits will not pass us by. Like all parents, we’re reading books, talking to friends, working on strategies, and figuring out what works best at this stage. Overall, however, we can’t complain. Kairat is such a good little boy…most of the time.

I’m finishing this entry before Kairat awakes. (6:30 a.m. is his typical rising time with a 7 p.m. bedtime.) Today IMG_3698looks to be another busy day with grandparents visiting so I have some time to help with the insulating of our addition.  A walk around Freeport and playing with my son, laundry, and then an evening of lesson planning before going to bed as early as possible will round out the day.

Throughout out most of the next few months I’ll constantly be thinking about our time in Kazakhstan and where we were in our adoption process. This fall will certainly be reflective of what our past year has brought us and constant realizations of the fact that, LIFE IS GOOD!

Time to go…I hear my son singing in his bed.


Entry filed under: Everyday Life, Kazakhstan Adoption.

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5 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Susan  |  September 20, 2009 at 5:22 pm

    awww happy year anniversary of meeting your sweet sweet son! what a great update! It is amazing how we all end up with the children who are totally meant to be ours!!

    I had the chance to spend Saturday with 2 other Kaz cuties and it was so special. Each child is so unique, beautiful, and smart.
    We are all SO incredibly blessed to have these children in our lives!!

    Kairat is such a smart, sweet, athletic lil boy! Leeza loves to be outside, too, but it’s really really still so hot.I am ready for Oct/Nov so we can enjoy it more,but we do spend a lot of time in the pool and she is quite the swimmer!

    We are also going thru a phase of hitting and throwing. It’s normal..they are learing to handle their frustration…but FRUSTRATING for us to manage too!


  • 2. Marc Herstein  |  September 20, 2009 at 8:06 pm

    This was delightful, thank you for sharing. I want to introduce a new company called Grandchild Connection. We allow distant grandparents and grandchildren to develop close, meaningful relationships by utilizing today’s technology of video conferencing. As part of the “VideoVisit” experience, we coach grandparents in educational and social activities that deepen the bonds they share with their grandchildren, and we provide the tools to achieve that end. Parents benefit from the service by getting some much needed downtime while the Grandparents play with the kids for hours at a time online.The site has been up since this past National Grandparents Day, September 13th, 2009. Looking forward to hearing back from you soon! Come visit us at grandchildconnection dot com

  • 3. Khadine  |  September 21, 2009 at 1:55 am

    Oh my goodness, Kairat is huge!!!! And so gorgeous!!!! I have to apologize, I lost the e-mail where I had the link to your blog and then I finally saw it on the Kaz blog site and had to check in and see how all of you were doing. Looks like everything is great, and again, I can hardly believe this is the same boy I saw last time I logged onto your blog. It’s amazing how quickly they grow! Welcome to the terrible 2s, by the way. Dylan is 2 1/2 now and already a veteran on the hitting and throwing things. It is definitely a challenge, but hopefuly this too shall pass, LOL!

    It was great to see what you guys have been up to, and congratulations on your 1 year anniversary!


  • 4. kerri  |  September 22, 2009 at 6:21 pm

    aw, i wish i could see him more often. do keep up with the posts so i can!!

  • 5. Kjersten  |  November 11, 2009 at 8:55 pm

    Fun to read over several of your posts. I am finally getting caught up on some of my computer time.
    I am glad to hear that, for you as well, the pain and difficulty of the journey to your son has faded into the past. It is absolutely amazing how the right children do find us, just not on the schedule that we might have wanted! There is NO doubt in my mind that Kairat was meant to be your son. He is adorable!
    I am sorry that we don’t see you more often but love knowing that it is always possible : ) Hopefully we can connect again before the kids get much bigger.
    Hugs to all of you!
    -KJ and the crew


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